Dating an older coworker

Also realize that even if he has revealed the nature of your relationship with your coworkers, they would have no way of knowing if he was telling the truth or lying. Finally, you can never control what others think of you.

Dating an older coworker

Dating a co-worker can lead to long-lasting love but only if you proceed wisely and with care.

Studies show that office romance is on the rise, and over 80 percent of people surveyed for one study say that would probably date a coworker. While some of them might blossom, office romances can be a little shaky, mainly because if things go sour, you're going to have to see this guy every day from 9am to 5pm—awkward.

I'm having some trouble determining how to read a new "dating" situation I am in. I'm 25, and have been recently dating an (indirect) coworker who is 40.

For the past few weeks or so, we have been going out to dinner or for a casual drink about 2 times per week.

No matter how covert you are, people are likely to catch on, but there's no need to broadcast it.

WHEN TO COME CLEANMost companies are lenient about dating (except between supervisors and their subordinates), says Lois Frankel, Ph D, author of "They recognize its ubiquity." But there may be rules about whom you have to inform and when.While he certainly doesn't avoid being close to me, he has not attempted to kiss me and things seem to be moving "slower" than usual.Everything he has said/done so far indicate that he is more traditional when it comes to dating, yet what should I make of this?"If it turns out to be a two-week fling, nobody needs to know about it," says Helaine Olen, coauthor of Office Mate. Olen says coworkers often guess something is going on when one person mentions the other too frequently. John helped with the graphics" or "Where'd you go for lunch?Oh, John loves that place."But if you were chummy before, don't ignore him now — that draws more attention than the occasional friendly moments does.If it gets serious (i.e., several months), it's wise to tell your boss—even if you don't have to—before she hears it from someone else, notes Frankel.

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